by Violet-C » Mon Jun 25, 2018 3:07 am
Part 9
I felt someone poking me gently and repeating “Mildred, Mrs McManus”
I opened my eyes not quite sure where I was to see Jenny standing over me. Before I could say anything she said
“Mrs McManus, I’m delighted to meet you and have us as one of our guests, I think you must have dozed off in the armchair”
I began to focus on my surroundings and it all came flooding back as to where I was. The sleeping pills must have been stronger than I thought and I looked around at the chintz filled room with 7 or 8 elderly people, almost all female either asleep or staring vacantly into space. What had I let myself in for I thought.
Collecting my thoughts, I managed to say “Hello, where am I, where’s my Granddaughter”
I could tell by the look on Jenny’s face she was delighted with me.
She assured me I ‘d be fine and she wanted me to be happy and I said I probably needed to visit the toilet. I got up from the chair only to fall back with my second giddy turn of the day.
Jenny looked a little shocked and said I should take a minute and then she’d slowly help me up. She took me to the toilet with its raised seat for the disabled and emergency bell, and I realised what my life had transformed into. I was also thankful that Jenny had arrived when she had, as my need for the toilet was urgent and I wondered if the sleeping pills would have prevented me from walking up in time to go.
I washed my hands carefully to avoid damaging the latex gloves when I saw Jenny (or Mrs Griffiths as I had to refer to her from now on) waiting for me.
“Mrs McManus how are you feeling now?” she asked.
She said she was worried about me and that she’d take me up to my room for us to have a chat before bringing me down for the evening meal at 6. Again, I was buckled into the stair-lift as she walked up the stairs beside me. She then helped me out of the chair and gave me my stick as we walked slowly down the corridor to my room.
She sat me down in my armchair and sat on the edge of my bed facing me. I told her how angry I was at being set-up to stay here for two weeks, but incredibly she simply talked down to me but in a very caring supportive way, staying in character all the time. She actually treated me as a cross between a small troublesome child and the disabled doddery grandmother that I’d chosen to become. She went on to remind me how difficult I had found it living on my own and that I must have realised by now, that with my forgetfulness and giddy spells my family was just too worried about me to let me stay on my own.
I was simply told that it was only for my own good and that all her team would take extra special care of me. She seemed genuinely concerned about my giddiness and left the room saying she’d be right back.
Five minutes later she returned and to my horror was holding a different walking stick, this one had a tripod base and she told me it would be much sturdier for me to hold on to if I felt giddy and would make it so much easier for me to get up from the chair or toilet. She waved my protests away saying I’d be thanking her in a few days when I found how much more easily I’d be able to move around using it. I could have screamed, but she then left saying she’d be back in a couple of days to check on me and walked off with my old walking stick.
This was turning into a living nightmare!
I spent the next couple of hours looking at the clothes in my wardrobe, all of which now had that unmistakable elderly scent to them and then sat staring out of the window daydreaming and wondering how I would get through the next two weeks. Did I really now smell like all my fellow residents and would I soon stop noticing it, as my nose familiarized itself with its constant presence?
Just after I’d finished checking my make-up there was a gentle knock on the door and a very nice middle-aged member of staff greeted me with a warm smile saying it was time for food and she’d help me down to the dining room.
We repeated what was already becoming the familiar routine of going to the chairlift and then I made my way into the corridor using my new tripod stick. I was then introduced to various residents who were either sat at the long dining table or being helped to their places like me. I sat between Maud and Edith who both made some small talk about the weather and their grandchildren but soon started to repeat themselves and I quickly realised that neither retained much short term memory. It became evident to me that I was going to have to embrace this new life for two weeks daydreaming my time away and making very simplistic small talk with my fellow residents.
The food soon arrived and it was rather tasteless, a little overcooked and was generally soft for those with difficulty chewing. Even so I didn't find it vey easy to cope, wearing my false teeth and when I checked my face with a tissue, could see that I’d dribbled some gravy on my face that must have been there for a good few minutes before I’d removed it. I was very rapidly losing all my dignity and started to feel thoroughly humiliated by what I’d chosen to put myself through I was going to spend two weeks practically unable to do very much at all for myself. After we had finished our bland food, we were all led back to the lounge and sat at various armchairs with the television on as background noise rather than for any meaningful purpose. Although with my hearing aids in its seemed rather loud and persistent, but I could tell that most of my fellow guests lacked the concentration to even follow the most mundane of soaps for very long. By 8pm I felt remarkably tired and was told that that was when the residents were gradually taken to their rooms. I was given my evening medication and then helped to my room after having to wait for the chairlift for my first night away as Mildred.
I had managed to remove my mask pretty effectively without damaging it and then lay awake most of the night petrified of being found out and hoping I’d be able to put my mask back on effectively in the morning. At 6, having had no more than a couple of hours of fitful sleep I got out of bed and went to the bathroom where I managed to carefully replace the mask and all the other elements of my disguise, I put my nightie back on and returned to bed waiting for the knock on my door which came at about 7.30.
A rather nice member of staff asked me if I’d slept well; and if I’d settled in and asked me if I needed any help dressing. She wasn’t very keen to let me get dressed on my own but I managed to convince her that I could manage.
I wore my granny pants and bra, support tights, elasticated green flared pleated skirt pink blouse, beige cardigan and my padded pink slippers. I finally added my glasses and hearing aids and waited to be taken down for my breakfast for what I felt would be a very long day.